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Added 94 new protocol YAML seed files covering diverse global cultures and practices: Indigenous & traditional: Maori powhiri, Aboriginal yarning, Somali xeer, Moroccan jmaa, Tswana kgotla, Zulu imbizo, Peruvian ronda campesina, Ohlone land-back, Inuit IQ consensus, Haudenosaunee condolence, Navajo peacemaking, Ojibwe pipe ceremony, Polynesian talanoa, Rwandan gacaca, West African palaver tree, Mexican tequio, Javanese musyawarah-mufakat, Tibetan story council, Korean yangban, Filipino utari, Ainu practices Religious communities: Quaker meeting for business, clearness committee, Amish shunning (Meidung), Mennonite discernment, Jewish hevruta, Rastafari nyabinghi reasoning Facilitation: World Cafe, Open Space, Future Search, Six Thinking Hats, Dynamic Facilitation, Socratic Seminar, Delphi method, Copenhagen Consensus, Lean Coffee, Hackathon sprint, Agile retrospective, Stand-up meeting, Pair programming, Roadmap planning Governance: Sociocratic consent selection, Dynamic self-governance, Cooperative consensus, Hackerspace consensus, Mastodon governance, Climate assemblies (x2), Basque asamblearismo Conflict & repair: Restorative conference, circle sentencing, Nonviolent Communication (3 protocols), Active listening mirror, Appreciative apology repair Community & care: Community kitchen, Gratefulness circle, Passing circle, Paired walking, Deep listening dyad, Mutual aid, Permaculture charrette Education: Barefoot College night school, Socratic seminar Everyday: Various greeting, transition, and gratitude protocols All protocols credit original sources. Cultural context noted in descriptions. All YAML files validated.
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id: appreciative-apology-repair
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title: Appreciative Apology and Repair
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description: >-
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A paired practice for delivering and receiving an apology so that repair
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actually occurs, drawing on restorative and Nonviolent Communication
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traditions. Distinct from a defensive or hollow apology.
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source: Restorative communication tradition
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source_url: https://www.iirp.edu/
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tags: [apology, repair, restorative, communication]
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forked_from: null
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image: null
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steps:
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- headline: Name the act specifically
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description: >-
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The person apologising names what they did in specific terms —
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"I raised my voice and called your idea foolish in the meeting" — not
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"I'm sorry if you were hurt."
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- headline: Acknowledge the impact
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description: >-
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They describe the impact they understand their action had, without
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minimising or explaining it away.
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- headline: Express genuine regret
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description: >-
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They express regret for the harm, not for being caught — naming what
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they wish they had done.
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- headline: Offer repair
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description: >-
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They offer a concrete act of repair — a correction to those present,
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a changed behaviour, a restitution — and ask if it would help.
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- headline: Receive and respond
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description: >-
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The person harmed receives the apology, names what they need (which
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may include time), and either accepts the repair or proposes an
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alternative.
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outcome: >-
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An apology is delivered and received as repair, with both parties clear
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on what happened, its impact, and the path forward.
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practice: >-
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"I'm sorry you felt" is not an apology. "I'm sorry I did" is. The repair
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must be offered, not imposed — ask what would help, then negotiate. |