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37 lines
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id: nvc-feelings-and-needs-dialogue
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title: NVC Feelings and Needs Dialogue
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description: >-
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The second and third steps of Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent
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Communication — identifying feelings and the underlying needs that drive
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them. Used to move from observation to connection without blame.
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source: Center for Nonviolent Communication
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source_url: https://www.cnvc.org/
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tags: [nvc, communication, feelings, needs, conflict]
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forked_from: null
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image: null
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steps:
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- headline: Name the feeling
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description: >-
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The speaker identifies and names what they feel in response to the
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observation: "I felt hurt and anxious..." rather than "I felt you
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were wrong."
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- headline: Name the need
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description: >-
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The speaker identifies the need underlying the feeling, not the
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other person's behaviour: "...because I have a need for respect and
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for predictability in our agreements."
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- headline: Check the need
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description: >-
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The listener reflects the need back and asks if they have understood,
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without agreeing or disagreeing.
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- headline: Repeat for the other
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description: >-
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The other person now identifies their own feelings and needs in the
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same form, building a shared picture of what each is needing.
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outcome: >-
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Both parties articulate the needs at stake, moving from positions to the
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universal needs that can be met in many ways.
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practice: >-
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Feelings are not judgements — "I feel ignored" is often a thought about
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the other. "I feel lonely" is a feeling. Needs are universal —
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"respect," "safety," "contribution" — not strategies. |